A COMBINATION of heat stroke, boredom and the usual malaise, which strikes every January, led to me rejoining a dating site last week. (I may or may not have also been looking for a blog before I start travelling again for the year). I elected to go back to BoganDating.com (not its real name) to see if things had changed in the year since I was last desperate enough to sign up. They have not. In all fairness, in the deep dark recesses of my mind, and with yet another Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, I may also hold some grim hope that the man of my dreams is lurking somewhere in the shadows on BoganDating.com. He is not. But it has certainly been an amusing week.
This time around I named myself after a popular travel site to at least see if anyone out there possessed a sense of irony. They don’t. At the time of writing this, I have attracted 209 views, 29 kisses and engaged in 1 email conversation. I think the rather low ratio of views to kisses and actual conversations may have had something to do with the fact I stipulated I am not interested in one-night stands, thus knocking out the majority of participants. Yes, “Fairdinkumkiwi”, “Gazza”, and “DancingandRomance” were all scared off by that one. “ChristopherB”, 27, was an interesting entrant in the game, particularly given I stated I was looking for a man aged between 40 and 50.
“Paul3000” was not looking for “anything serious” nor a “one-night stand” but just “regular fun”. I’m pretty sure we all know what that means. Yet Paul was quite the serious sausage himself, stipulating: “Please read my profile carefully, and only respond if you do want to chat and do like what you have read. Sorry for sounding like a grouch, but it has been getting annoying.” I’m believe Paul actually lives in a garbage bin and his real name is Oscar. “RhythmLover”, aged 64, also viewed my profile. He wanted to “encounter a friendship of epicurean attraction…a curious glance across a shared vintage…the chink of glass, one hand upon another…mmm”. I think RhythmLover has just finished reading 50 Shades of Grey. He is, however, keeping his options open, stating he wants to meet anyone between the ages of 18-120 and, most reassuringly, stating “my iPod remains young.” Phew. Can’t date a dating iPod.
“Charlie” was not interested in “pushy women” but definitely wanted someone “with their own mind” (I’m SO confused). “RichobytheCoast” went straight for the sales pitch, leading his profile with “I have just bought a beachfront apartment at Kings Beach”. Unfortunately for Richo that is the most exciting thing about him. I actually responded in the affirmative to “Devoted2U” prepared to overlook the corny name, as he said he wanted a woman he could “spoil”, one who was “independent” and “one that knows how to put a man in his place”. Devoted, you had me at hello! Unfortunately, Devoted’s idea of “spoiling” a woman, seems to be actually responding to her email. He has since gone walkabout.
Walkabout seems to be the theme this season, as was also the case of a detective who also went missing in action for three days, straight after I emailed him back. Which made me wonder. Had he been killed by a Gold Coast bikie? Was he on a secret assignment? Or did he do a criminal check and discover I got a speeding fine on New Years Eve? In my defence, Your Honour, it was a scorcher, I had a hot roast chicken in the car, and I needed to get the chook home. And no, I don’t condone speeding, but I thought it was a 60 zone in which I was clocked doing 65. And yes, the chicken ended up costing me $227 and 3 demerit points. Lesson learnt. And so, too, may my lesson be learnt on this dating site.
Now, before I sign off, I have been speaking with a close male mate and he too has been dabbling in the whole dating disaster site business. And, remarkably, he has similar tales to tell of the female of the species. Like me, the minute he contacts them in the affirmative, they tend to disappear off the face of the planet. His worst tale is of a self-confessed spiritual guru who expended considerable energy painting a picture of what they’d do when they next caught up, and even spoke of an overseas break with him. And just when he was about hooked, she then revealed she had “reconciled with her partner”. We both don’t believe her but thanks for playing around with someone’s heart, lady. So, I am none the wiser on what makes this dating business tick. Or why there are so many imitators playing this particular game, but if the survival of our species relies on men and women actually forming healthy relationships, then we’re all doomed.
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Don’t give up hope. I have a friend who met her partner 14 years ago on a dating site and they are happy still. But it was a lesbian date site – so . . . Also one of my colleagues met someone four months ago and they are going strong.
Thanks Bev. He’s out there somewhere. I know it!
The $227 chicken and 3 demerit points cracked me up. Have you tried dinner for six? A friend of mine met her cardiologist husband via that site. Nice catch:)
Given my chook ending up costing me $227 I could have bought dinner for six, Donna Parkin!
Bah humbug to Valentine’s Day! Think of it in purely commercial terms and you have no need to feel pressure to be with someone for that single day. It’s over in a blink. And yes, he’ll be out there somewhere…
I know it!
I’m available, Goddes, but I’m much to elderly for your tender years. What a bastard. It will happen, but not over night.
Best offer I’ve had in ages, Tommy!
Oh, I’m so glad Lee shared this with me! I laughed and so commiserated. Perhaps you and I will have to leave it to kismet and wise friends:).
Likewise! I loved your read and shared it on my facebook page: The Global Goddess. It seems to be a global issue. Hang in there sista, I’m leaving mine to fate. x
Funny GG I too went back to a dating site last month – must be something about January and new starts. RSVP. Got the same guys looking at me and doing nothing or sending kisses and then when you reply you’re interested you never hear from them again. They must be waiting for me to fork out for stamps to send messages. One, who I did buy stamps to contact last time (and then he disappeared), and who is rather cute, sent me a kiss again, then nothing. Last time I wasted money as it didn’t go anywhere due to his inaction. Curious. Why flirt, then disappear, esp when your profile is fairly open. So, in conclusion, I think they’re all a bit strange, The site is strange – and artificial. I’ve sent kisses to guys who then say they have “just started something and they’ll get back to me”…Or sorry they “don’t want to take it any further”. I only get approached by older guys or young guys (I guess my age is chasing young skirt) and usually people who are so not my type or miles away……so it’s all a bit disheartening. Your thoughts?
Yes, dating sites are hard work and not for the faint of heart. While others have found love on them, they’re not for me.